So you finally let someone know what you think about them and they just want to be friends, or besties. You’ve probably spent a lot of time with this person and care about them. Feel like you know them better than anyone else and you know what makes them happy. You’re obviously attracted to this person so what’s the harm in staying friends?
You aren’t just friends.
You aren’t just friends. Well, you’re just freinds to the other peson, but he or she is more than just a friend to you. You will continue to have a thing for them. You’re going to hold them on a pedestal, buy them their starbucks, movie tickets, park tickets. They will treat you like a friend, accept all your gifts and attention and then after hanging up the phone with you, get prettied up to meet up with chad/jennifer.
That person likes the way you treat them, that’s why they have you around. Your time and attention that you offer is valuable. The adoration you give him or her is valuable. So what should you do?
What to do about it.
Let them know that you value them as a friend, but it’s not possible for you to treat them as “just a friend” as long as you feel the way you do about them. Let them know that you can be their friend again once you no longer have feelings for them. Respectfully let them know that you are looking for your special person, someone who wants you to be their special person.
You don’t have to be cold to them after that, just don’t give them all your time attention. Text here and there, but don’t hang out, you know exactly where your mind will be.